I caught up with a good friend today. Last week, one of her children received a No when she was desperately hoping for a Yes. I don't care how old you are: when your future hangs on a yes, it hurts to receive that no. A door closes and we are left standing on the … Continue reading Doors

You know that moment when you click back into yourself? Maybe you've felt out of sorts or disconnected or generally discombobulated (a fav word) and suddenly, you just fit again within yourself. It happened this morning while out for a walk. I made the turn for home and felt it. I felt myself realign followed … Continue reading Lift

Early in January 2019, I wrote in my journal that a sea change was coming. A sea change is defined as "a profound or notable transformation." I thought that because I was ending some things (marriage, a family structure, part time work) that I was near the beginning of a new journey. Little did I … Continue reading Sea Change

To my children’s significant others and friends, Thank you for saying hi to me the other day. I sensed you were nervous and just maybe it took a major effort to walk or look my way. I want you to know that because my child cares about you, I care about you too. I wish … Continue reading Moms

As I mentioned last week, I'm dating someone. We met online and things have progressed from get-to-know-you texting to meet for a drink to go out for dinner. Here's the thing: dating now (with kids, middle-aged, post divorce, you name it) leads me to feel three different ages at once. I feel 17 with the … Continue reading Ages

It’s blog post night. I typically write blog post drafts during the week and then refine and post on Thursday. This week, I‘m on my third possible post, each on a completely separate topic. It’s that kind of week. I wrote on Monday night about seeing someone. That’s right. I’m dating someone and still getting … Continue reading IRL

For my dear friend in what feels like an impossible situation. Dear friend, I know you are tired. I can see you assessing just how much more you can take, see you wondering if you are getting too close to the point of losing yourself entirely. I recognize the clinical assessment when fatigue overwhelms emotion; … Continue reading Friend

I nearly had a "moment" in Walmart on Sunday morning. Statistically speaking, given the chaos in my life the last few years combined with weekly trips to Walmart, it was bound to happen. The noise, colors and shoppers faded; feelings flooded my shape and threatened to seep out. It wasn't the first time. This particular … Continue reading Heaven

After all of these huge life transitions (divorce, moving, job hunting), I finally have time for some fun which includes dating. (If you'd like some context, check out my previous post on starting to date here.) But you don't get to this age without some baggage. Here's mine. Like you, I learned survival skills early. … Continue reading Skills

I spent this past weekend with my sister. Waking up in a narrow bedroom, she in the twin bed, me in the pull-out trundle. Four decades previous, we slept in the same arrangement in our childhood home. Back then the suburban nights were quiet. This weekend, the traffic from Lake Shore Drive provides white noise … Continue reading Family